Imagine how different our healing journeys would look if narcissists could be honest for just five minutes. Five minutes of truth instead of manipulation. Five minutes where they dropped the performance and told us what we always suspected but never heard out loud. I used to fantasize about that moment, especially during the years I … Read more
Trying to make a narcissist understand your pain feels like shouting into a wall that enjoys watching you crumble. I remember the countless times I tried to reason with my brother, explaining calmly how his constant jabs at my achievements left me sleepless at night. Each attempt ended with him twisting my words or storming … Read more
Imagine if almost every problem you’ve ever had with a narcissist vanished overnight. You stop replaying every conversation. The sleepless nights fade. And those emotional hangovers from arguments that blindsided you finally lose their grip. I used to live in that endless loop. I’d walk on eggshells, carefully arranging every word I said so no … Read more
Mornings used to be my favorite time of day. I’d wake before everyone else, pour a cup of coffee, and sit in silence watching the sunlight move across the kitchen tiles. It was a sacred rhythm. Quiet, calm, and mine. Then, like clockwork, I’d hear footsteps, and the air would shift. The peace I’d built … Read more
Nights should be a time of rest, a soft exhale after the noise and demands of the day. But beside a narcissist, night becomes something else entirely. It turns into a silent battlefield, a theater of quiet control, a stage where affection and cruelty intertwine beneath the same blanket. I remember lying next to my … Read more
Narcissists obsess over what shines, like money, image, and admiration, yet the most devastating things they steal aren’t tangible. They rob you of what can’t be bought back, repaid, or re-earned. The quiet, sacred parts of your being that make you you. For me, the realization came one ordinary Tuesday morning. I was washing dishes … Read more
We’ve all been there. Listening to someone’s words that sound smooth, polished, and even convincing. But something feels off. There’s a subtle tension in the air, a twitch in their hand, a shift in posture that doesn’t match the story they’re spinning. Narcissists are masters at faking emotions, stories, and tears. Yet, no matter how … Read more
Narcissists are master illusionists. In front of the world, they exude charm, confidence, and competence. But behind closed doors, when no one is watching, their true nature leaks through in tiny, unsettling ways. These behaviors are silent alarms signaling obsession, insecurity, and control. I remember catching my younger brother in one of these moments. I … Read more
Narcissists believe silence means defeat. To them, if you’re not reacting, you’re losing. But that’s the lie they live on. They mistake your silence for defeat, never realizing it’s the very thing that cuts off their supply. I learned this the hard way with my mother. Every argument with her used to feel like a … Read more
Healing after narcissistic abuse goes deeper than just “moving on.” It means untangling the survival patterns that once kept you small, the people-pleasing, the silence you used to stay safe. It’s learning to stop minimizing your pain just to keep others comfortable. Therapy taught me that recovery isn’t fixing what’s broken in you, but understanding … Read more
