There was a time I couldn’t tell if the voice in my head was mine or my toxic mother’s. Or my ex’s. Or my narcissistic older sister’s. “You’re too much.”“You’re impossible to love.”“You’ll never make it without me.” They didn’t just say those things once. They repeated them until I did too. I didn’t even … Read more
I wasn’t born afraid. You weren’t either. But after years of walking on eggshells, swallowing my words, and shrinking myself to keep the peace for my very dysfunctional and toxic family. I forgot what courage even felt like. Fear became so familiar, it started feeling safe. I mistook it for protection. If you’ve ever held … Read more
Is reaching goals important to you? Or, are you more of a free rover? Though the path is your own to choose, you should know that not all of them lead to the top. Multiple success stories have proven this, along with two frequently cited studies on the importance of goal setting. In 1979, interviewers … Read more
Growing up in a business-savvy family, investment is something that I’ve never stopped hearing. Do you want to be rich? Invest in stock, in a company or focus on start-ups, but what happens to invest in yourself? I was told that school is the best place to learn, do well in school, get good grades, … Read more
The first time I caught my narcissistic mother lying to my face, I thought I had misunderstood. She looked me dead in the eye and said, “I never said that.”But I remembered every word. The tone. The pause. The sting. Still, I doubted myself. Because that’s what narcissists do. They lie so confidently, so calmly, … Read more
I used to believe that having a good attitude would fix everything, at least while growing up with a narcissistic mother and her enablers. Smile more. Be grateful. Don’t let them get to you. But here’s the truth no one told me, you can’t “positive attitude” your way out of abuse. Especially when the narcissist … Read more
I used to stare at myself in the mirror and wonder, “Who even are you anymore?” After years of being told I was too much, too emotional, too dramatic, believing in myself felt impossible. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just break your heart. It breaks your identity. It chips away at your self-worth until all that’s left … Read more
Books can provide us with such a wealth of support, knowledge, and inspiration in many areas of our lives. I remembered the books that I picked up which became two of my favorite best self-help books were How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. These books that … Read more
After years of dealing with my narcissistic family members and, worse than that, I dated one unknowingly, my mind wasn’t just tired, it was wrecked. I’d wake up already exhausted, overthink everything I said, and question if I was actually the problem. I wasn’t. But when you’ve been manipulated, gaslit, and dismissed long enough, even … Read more
