I used to over-explain everything. That was so tiring, I can tell you that much. I thought if I said it the right way, softer voice, measured tone, fewer words, my family or ex would finally hear me. They didn’t. They just heard vulnerability. And they used it. Narcissists don’t listen to understand. They listen … Read more
The first time I said it out loud, my narcissistic ex’s face froze. For once, he didn’t know what to say, that was awesome, and I didn’t flinch. I dated a narcissist for six months. Not long enough to destroy me, but just enough to make me question everything I thought I knew about love. … Read more
I wasn’t the kind of woman who yelled. I was the kind who explained. Who reasoned. Who cried when reason didn’t work and cried harder when silence did. I rewrote text messages a dozen times to sound “less harsh.” I practiced softness like survival. I wanted to be understood, not feared, and not hated. I … Read more
Narcissists don’t date weak women. They date women who intimidate them, then try to break them like a collectible trophy. I learned this the hard way with Shawn. He didn’t swipe right because I looked broken or desperate. He chose me because I had my shit together, successful career, my own place, clear boundaries, the … Read more
The uncomfortable “I have something to tell you, but I don’t want to get involved” expression. “He’s been asking about you again,” she said quietly. “And about your new boyfriend.” My stomach dropped. It had been two months since I broke up with my ex. Two months since I’d discovered he’d been cheating with Melissa … Read more
My narcissistic ex did me the biggest favor of my life. He made me completely immune to manipulation. I should probably send him a thank-you card. Actually, scratch that. He doesn’t deserve the acknowledgment. But here’s what’s wild: while he was busy trying to break me down, he accidentally built me up. Every lie he … Read more
I became undateable to toxic and narcissistic men the moment I created my non-negotiable dating rules. And honestly? Best decision I ever made. Six months. That’s all it took for my narcissistic ex to nearly destroy everything I’d built for myself. But here’s the thing: I saw it coming faster than most survivors do, and … Read more
Everyone told me I needed to “get back out there” after my narcissistic ex stole my credit score and my self-worth in six months flat. I did the opposite, and that rebellious choice led me straight to my husband. But let me back up. Picture this: You’re 29, still figuring out life, and your toxic … Read more
I thought I had found the one. Instead, I found my worst nightmare. He didn’t show up like a monster. I wished! He showed up like a dream. Attentive, charming, and full of promises that made me believe I would be safe. For a while, I thought I had hit the jackpot. But slowly, and … Read more
I told myself I could handle it. That maybe I was overreacting. That love meant compromise. I was so wrong. When you’re with a narcissist, you don’t wake up one day and suddenly see the truth. It happens slowly. One gaslight at a time, one silent treatment at a time, one emotional high followed by … Read more
