I wasted years of my life waiting for closure from my narcissistic family. Years. Years of hoping for a conversation that would never happen. Years of daydreaming about that perfect apology that was never coming. Years of explaining my pain to people who never cared about understanding it in the first place. And do you ... Read more
Let me tell you exactly when I knew I became dangerous to my narcissistic family. It wasn’t when I went no contact. It wasn’t when I blocked them everywhere. It wasn’t even when I packed my bags and left. Nope. It was the day I spoke up. The day I called my toxic sister out ... Read more
Let’s get one thing straight. Just because your family refuses to apologize doesn’t mean you’re wrong for wanting for one. You’re not being dramatic. You’re not holding a grudge. You’re asking for something they don’t know how to give: accountability. In families where narcissism runs the show, you learn quickly that your feelings don’t matter ... Read more
If you’ve ever found yourself going in circles, trying to explain your pain to someone who refuses to hear it, this is for you. Especially if that someone happens to be a narcissist. I used to think if I just explained myself clearly enough, they’d finally understand. That they’d hear the pain in my voice, ... Read more
Going no contact with a narcissistic ex is one of the toughest decisions I’ve ever made. I thought I knew exactly what was going to happen. After all, the advice is clear: cut them off, heal, move on. It sounded simple enough, right? But, wow, what actually happened was a lot more complicated than I ... Read more
You ever walk away from a conversation with a narcissist thinking, “Damn… why didn’t I say THAT?” Yeah, same. I used to freeze. Smile. Shrink. Let the insult slide while my gut was screaming. Narcissists are calculated. They don’t slap you with obvious cruelty, they stab you with those polished little jabs that look harmless ... Read more
Funny how no one says anything while you’re slowly being destroyed behind closed doors. No one asks if you’re okay. No one steps in when the insults get sharper. No one dares to challenge the person doing the damage. But the second you speak up, suddenly everyone remembers something. Suddenly, they knew all along. Suddenly, ... Read more
I remember the first time I tried to set a boundary with my narcissistic mother. I was not comfortable at all. Her response? Silence. Followed by days of guilt trips and subtle punishment. She made sure I felt the consequences. That moment taught me something I didn’t want to admit: I wasn’t afraid of her… ... Read more
Understanding the roots doesn’t excuse the damage, but it explains everything. The pain that started it all. I didn’t just study narcissism, I lived it. I was born to a narcissistic mother who saw me as an extension of herself, not a child with my own voice. I dated a narcissist who twisted my emotions ... Read more
If you told me ten years ago I’d be grateful for the woman who called me “ugly, loser, dumb, ungrateful” while growing up, I would’ve laughed in your face and handed you a therapist’s number. But here I am, decades later, and I finally get it. My narcissistic mother didn’t raise me. She trained me. ... Read more
