Can a narcissist really be defeated? Not with kindness. Not with logic. But with a strategy? Absolutely. I spent years trying to reason with narcissists in my life. Trying to soften them. Make them see the damage. But narcissists aren’t looking for understanding; they’re looking for dominance. And the more I tried to be “reasonable,” … Read more
Narcissists don’t trap you with chains; they trap you with words that become your thoughts you didn’t know were lies. I honestly used to overthink everything. I second-guessed myself into staying in relationships longer, apologizing when I wasn’t at fault, and ignoring my gut feelings. And the worst part? I thought that made me strong. … Read more
“You weren’t born to be liked by everyone. You were born to be real.” And being real in a narcissistic family system? That’s basically a betrayal punishable by emotional exile, passive-aggressive group chats, and being cropped out of family photos so poorly you can still see half your elbow. I used to play the role … Read more
Gaslighting doesn’t always sound like an insult Sometimes it sounds like concern: “You’re imagining things.”, “You’re just too sensitive,” or “You always twist things.” And just like that, you’re the one apologizing. I used to leave conversations with my narcissistic family, feeling like I lost a fight I didn’t know I was in. What a … Read more
I want you to picture this: the narcissist sits like royalty at the head of the table, calm, admired, untouchable. Around them is a handpicked circle who praise them, protect them, and clean up every mess they make. They laugh at cruel jokes. They echo twisted stories. They make lies sound like truth. And you? … Read more
I didn’t go to therapy to forgive my abusers. I went because I was tired of being taken advantage of and blamed for it. I remember sitting across from my therapist, arms folded, jaw tight, expecting him to talk about “healing the inner child” or “forgiveness.” Instead, he dropped a truth so sharp, I felt … Read more
For most of my adult life, I thought I was just overly sensitive because I’m an overthinker in nature. I’d brace for rejection and overthink every decision. I told myself I was anxious, cautious, and introverted. But it wasn’t just my wiring. Those fears had fingerprints on them. They weren’t random. They were rehearsed, repeated, … Read more
“I didn’t escape narcissistic abuse by raising my voice — I escaped by asking the one question no one’s supposed to ask in a toxic family.” It was a holiday. Chaos. Passive-aggression served with pie. My uncle made a “joke” at my expense, and everyone laughed like it was harmless, like it was normal. I … Read more
“Narcissists don’t lie by saying too little, they lie by saying exactly what you want to hear.” I used to fall for words. The right ones made me stay. The clever ones made me doubt myself. The charming ones made me forgive what I shouldn’t have. I thought I was smart, and I am, but … Read more
I thought I was the problem. I thought I just needed to try harder when it comes to my narcissistic family. My mother had this way of making me believe that everything wrong in our relationship was because I was too much, or not enough. For years, I shrank myself into someone she might finally … Read more
