Narcissists don’t just manipulate with words. They control with invisible strings called FOG: Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. If you’ve ever walked on eggshells, doubted your own judgment, or stayed silent just to “keep the peace,” you’ve felt the suffocating grip of FOG. It’s one of the most effective tools narcissists use because it’s silent, subtle, … Read more
Survivors often describe life after narcissistic abuse as moving through fog. I know this firsthand. There were days I couldn’t remember where I put my keys or why I walked into a room. My younger brother would mock me for “losing my mind,” and my mother would twist it into proof that I was weak. … Read more
The hardest lesson survivors learn is that you can’t make a narcissist stop abusing you. I didn’t want to believe it. For years, I kept thinking I just hadn’t tried hard enough. I adjusted my tone with my mother, softened my words around my younger brother, and poured endless patience into my sister’s outbursts. I … Read more
It feels deeply unfair, doesn’t it? You walk into a room with confidence, or maybe you simply radiate warmth without even trying. Yet, instead of kindness, you’re met with cruelty from the very people who should protect you. Narcissists don’t celebrate beauty, charisma, or confidence. They punish it. I noticed this with my cousin, who … Read more
Survivors of narcissistic abuse know this tug-of-war all too well: the moments when your own mind whispers, “Maybe it wasn’t that bad. Maybe I overreacted.” I’ve sat in those very moments, replaying conversations, wondering if I had imagined the cruelty. Was I really “too sensitive,” like they always told me? Did I deserve the icy … Read more
Ever tried to have a simple conversation with a narcissist and felt like you were going in circles? You end up drained, doubting yourself, and no closer to the truth. You walk away questioning not just the issue at hand but your very memory, your perception, even your sanity. There was one evening when I … Read more
When a narcissist starts to hate you, it means they can’t control you anymore, not that you did something wrong. I learned that the hard way. I remember one afternoon at home when my younger brother slammed the door as he passed me in the hallway, his eyes full of hostility. It wasn’t random. It … Read more
Guilt was my default setting, not because I kept doing wrong, but because narcissists made me believe existing was a crime. I once told my mother I couldn’t drive her to the store because I had an early work deadline. The silence that followed was worse than yelling. I felt her disappointment like a weight … Read more
The narcissist’s cruelty isn’t random. It’s built into how their brain works. One winter evening, my narcissistic mother had a guest over. I got up to refill a glass of water, but slipped, and it spilled across the table. I looked up and caught her smirk. She turned away as if my embarrassment was entertainment. … Read more
Narcissistic rage isn’t just anger. It’s their brain hijacking reality. I’ll never forget the night it all erupted at a family dinner. My mother’s younger sister had made a casual remark about how I looked tired. It was meant kindly, but within seconds, my mother’s face tightened, and the atmosphere shifted into a storm. What … Read more
