Living with a narcissist is like being on an emotional rollercoaster, youโre constantly up, and down, and feeling like youโre about to be thrown off.
If youโre still with one, you know how draining, confusing, and downright frustrating it can be.
Growing up, I faced a similar situation with my dysfunctional family.
I was born in Cambodia and moved to Canada when I was 13, thinking life might get easier.
Instead, I found myself navigating a complex family dynamic where my toxic mother, a charming yet self-centered figure, wielded influence that often left me feeling like the odd one out.
My siblings, the โgolden children,โ followed in her footsteps, leaving me to figure things out on my own.
But I did figure it out, and now Iโm here to share some hard-earned wisdom.
Even in the midst of a narcissistโs manipulative games, there are things you can do to maintain your sanity, sense of self, and well-being.
Think of it as your survival guide.
So, letโs get into the 12 essential strategies you must adopt when you’re still entangled with a narcissist.
Table of Contents
1. Make Yourself a Priority with Self-Care

People come and go, especially those who are narcissists.
My sister and I were close until my success threatened her, and she turned on me faster than you could blink.
The takeaway? Make yourself a priority.
Self-care is essential for your well-being, not an indulgence.
Cut toxic people out or set aside time to engage in activities that bring you joy.
Taking care of yourself is non-negotiable.
2. Do Your Best To Focus on The Present

Iโve learned from my toxic family dynamics that nothing is permanent, not the good times, not the bad times, and definitely not the narcissistic drama.
My narcissistic mother held significant influence over the family, but eventually, I realized that her control only extended as far as I allowed it.
Focusing on the present moment helped me release her emotional grip.
Instead of worrying about her next move, I directed my energy toward what I could manage my thoughts, my actions, and my happiness.
3. Keep Moving and Boost Your Mood

Staying active has been a lifeline for me.
When family drama escalates, I take a walk, head to the gym, or just dance in my living room.
Physical movement clears your mind and lifts your spirits, helping you shake off negativity and regain control of your body and mind.
4. Prioritize Your Sleep

Compromising sleep was never an option for me.
Growing up in a household filled with emotional turmoil.
I often found myself lying awake, replaying the dayโs events and worrying about the future.
Sleep, however, is the foundation of everything else.
Without proper rest, itโs impossible to think clearly, let alone confront a narcissist.
I made a commitment to myself to always get 7-8 hours of sleep, and it has made all the difference.
5. Maintain Your Mental Health Always!

Emotional manipulation takes a toll on your mental health.
For years, I grappled with feelings of inadequacy, largely due to my motherโs constant belittling.
Over time, I realized that my mental health required consistent care.
Therapy, meditation, and journaling became crucial practices for maintaining my well-being.
Mental health isnโt about perfection, itโs about regular maintenance, much like caring for your car or home.
6. Nourish Your Body With Healthy Diets
What you put into your body is just as important as what you do with it.
Growing up, I often turned to comfort food to cope with family stress.
As I matured, I recognized that eating well was a vital form of self-care.
Nourishing your body with healthy foods doesnโt just benefit your physical health, it also supports your mental well-being.
7. Be Patient With Everything You Do

Breaking free from a narcissistโs grip is a slow process.
It took me years to detach from my motherโs influence and even longer to heal emotionally.
Progress may feel slow, but every small step forward is significant.
Itโs important to be patient with yourself and recognize that change is a gradual journey, not a quick fix.
8. Celebrate Every Win, No Matter How Small
When I finally severed ties with my sister, it felt like a major victory.
But even before that, I celebrated smaller milestones, standing up for myself, setting boundaries, and dedicating time to self-care.
Every small win is a step towards reclaiming your life.
Itโs easy to overlook these moments, but they are the building blocks of lasting change.
9. Guard Your Mindset Against Negativity

Narcissists excel at distorting reality, making you question your worth.
For years, my mother convinced me that I was inadequate, but once I shifted my mindset, everything changed.
I understood that my thoughts shape my reality, so I began fiercely guarding them.
Positive affirmations, supportive relationships, and practicing gratitude helped me reclaim my mind from her toxic influence.
10. Replenish Yourself First

Self-care isnโt just a trendy term, itโs a necessity.
Dealing with narcissists can be incredibly draining as they continuously take without giving back.
I learned that you must fill your own cup first by engaging in activities you love, such as reading, taking a bath, or spending time alone.
You canโt give to others when youโre running on empty, so prioritize taking care of yourself.
11. Stay Consistent With Everything You Do
Consistency is your greatest ally when dealing with a narcissist.
Their world thrives on chaos and unpredictability, so maintaining a steady, consistent approach is essential.
Whether youโre enforcing boundaries or sticking to your self-care routine, consistency will help keep you grounded and resilient over time.
12. Self-Care Is Essential, Not Selfish
One of the most important lessons Iโve learned is that self-care is not a luxury, itโs essential.
My narcissistic mother often tried to convince me that focusing on myself was selfish, but I eventually realized it was necessary for my survival.
Self-care is how you protect yourself from their toxic influence and begin the healing process.
Final Thoughts
Taking your power back from a narcissist isnโt always loud, sometimes, itโs the quiet act of choosing yourself over their chaos.
Every time you prioritize your peace, your health, your energy, youโre showing them they donโt control you anymore.
And more importantly? Youโre reminding yourself that you matter.
The Next Chapter was built for this exact moment, when youโve stopped playing the game, but still need tools to rebuild what they tried to destroy.
Inside, youโll learn how to create emotional safety, set boundaries without guilt, and trust yourself like never before.
Because dominating your space isnโt about revenge, itโs about never giving your power away again.
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Kolyanne, you’re an angel here on earth. Your words & advice are changing my life. Please don’t stop helping others overcome dealing with Narcissistic individuals. I broke up with my Xfiance two years ago but since doing so learned my big sister is a covert narc. I never understood growing up but now I’m fully aware and everything makes sense. Thank you so much!!
You’re welcome and I’m glad you find this content helpful!