The guilt almost killed me more than the abuse itself, and that’s exactly what my narcissistic family was counting on. For eleven months after cutting off my family, I tortured myself with “what ifs” and “maybe I should try again” until I realized the guilt wasn’t love, it was the final chain keeping me trapped. ... Read more
Everyone told me I needed to “get back out there” after my narcissistic ex stole my credit score and my self-worth in six months flat. I did the opposite, and that rebellious choice led me straight to my husband. But let me back up. Picture this: You’re 29, still figuring out life, and your toxic ... Read more
I used to manage my narcissistic mother’s emotions better than my own bank account. Now I run a successful business with my husband, and she still can’t regulate a conversation without screaming. Sad, if you were to ask me. For thirty years, I was the family’s emotional manager, apologizing for everyone’s outbursts, smoothing over their ... Read more
I apologized to my mother for existing until I was 35 years old. Yep! Not literally, of course. But every time she said “I’m sorry you feel that way” after calling me worthless, I thanked her. Every time she followed up her cruelty with “I’m sorry, but you bring out the worst in me,” I ... Read more
I used to think there was something wrong with me for “seeing the worst” in my family; turns out, I was finally seeing the truth. These seven perspective shifts didn’t just change how I saw my past; they completely transformed my future. The Christmas I finally said “no” to hosting after years of being the ... Read more
Growing up, I didn’t really understand what was happening to me. Why did my mother hate me so much while loving my older sister and younger brother so dearly? For years, I didn’t call it abuse, well, because I didn’t know what it was then. My narcissistic family was a pro at making me question ... Read more
I used to think time alone would heal me. But time doesn’t rebuild what my narcissistic family destroyed. My self-worth does. Rebuilding myself didn’t come from waiting. It came from one bold, unapologetic little choice at a time. Every single day! There was no dramatic moment of transformation. Just small, steady rebellions: the choice to ... Read more
You’re not crazy for feeling flipped upside down after calling out a narcissist. Trust me, I know what I’m talking about! I remember asking one calm, honest question… nothing dramatic, just clarity-seeking to my toxic mother. Within seconds, the tone shifted. I was suddenly the one being questioned. “Why are you always so difficult?” “You’re ... Read more
I used to think leaving my narcissistic family was a one-time decision. I thought that once I stopped talking to them, blocked their numbers, and unfollowed them on social media, I’d finally be free. I had no idea I’d have to leave them emotionally, mentally, spiritually… over and over again. The truth is, detachment isn’t ... Read more
I used to think narcissists, including my own family, were just cruel people… cold, calculating, and heartless. I couldn’t wrap my head around how someone could lie so easily, twist the truth, or smile while cutting you to pieces. For most of my life, I thought it was just a character flaw. Then I stumbled ... Read more
