A narcissist doesn’t need you to speak to know who you are. They read you the way a predator studies prey. I remember walking into my mother’s kitchen one afternoon, grocery bags still in hand. Before I even set them down, I felt her eyes glide over me like a scanner. My hair wasn’t brushed ... Read more
The worst part wasn’t the abuse. It was the blank stares when I tried to explain it, like I was speaking a language no one else understood. I remember when I told my cousin how my mother called me “useless” in front of my siblings for forgetting to turn off the kitchen light. I tried ... Read more
Why does the most arrogant person in the office so often end up with the corner office? Researchers have long noted that narcissists rise through ranks at a surprising speed. It isn’t luck. It’s how their traits are perceived in professional settings. Confidence, dominance, and a willingness to take risks can be mistaken for vision ... Read more
Not all forms of narcissism are destructive. A degree of it can actually help survivors rebuild. For years, even hearing the word made my body react. My stomach would clench the way it did when my mother’s voice rose in anger or when my sister’s sarcasm cut through me. Narcissism, in my mind, was synonymous ... Read more
It begins like déjà vu. You meet someone new, and the connection feels instant. Their laugh mirrors your mother’s, their wit carries your sister’s edge, and their gaze has that strange familiarity you can’t quite place. At first, it feels like fate. But with time, the pattern reveals itself. What you mistook for “family” was ... Read more
Narcissism doesn’t wear a single face. Psychologists now identify eight distinct profiles, each carrying its own set of tactics and warning signs. For survivors, that discovery offers something crucial: a framework. Naming the patterns shifts chaos into clarity. I remember the confusion of living with my mother’s sudden turns. At Sunday lunch, she’d boast to ... Read more
For decades, psychology textbooks described narcissism as a single personality type. But new research suggests otherwise. Experts now frame it as a tripartite structure: grandiose, vulnerable, and entitled. For survivors, this shift is more than academic language. It explains the chaos that shapes daily life with a narcissistic parent, sibling, or relative. What once seemed ... Read more
Being with a narcissist is like playing a rigged game. They make the rules, they break the rules, and you get punished no matter what. I first noticed the hypocrisy when I was just fifteen. My mother, whom I adored as a child, told me I was “overreacting” for crying over a minor misunderstanding. Yet, ... Read more
Narcissists don’t come back to reconnect. They come back to test if they still control you. I’ll never forget the random “hey stranger” text I got on a Tuesday afternoon while folding laundry. It came from my mother, with whom I’d gone low contact months earlier. My stomach tightened instantly, that old knot of dread ... Read more
Forgiveness gets painted as soft, weak, or passive. Society tells women it’s about being “good” or “holy” or “turning the other cheek.” But survivors of narcissistic abuse know better: that kind of forgiveness is a trap. The truth is, forgiveness is the one move narcissists can’t counter. They thrive on your anger, your resentment, and ... Read more
