My main intention when creating Pinch of Attitude was to share my deeply personal, uplifting and emotional life lessons. I wanted to not only help end suffering for anyone who experiences pain and hostility that hold them back from living their lives purposely and meaningfully but to also shut off all the irrelevant noises so … Read more
I used to tell myself I stayed because I loved my narcissistic family; family is everything, no matter what. That’s what everyone assumed anyway: “You must’ve really loved your family to put up with all that.”But love wasn’t what kept me stuck. Fear did.Fear of being alone.Fear of starting over.Fear that maybe I really was … Read more
Leaving a narcissist doesn’t come with confetti. There’s no parade. No instant peace. Just silence… and a whole lot of emotional wreckage. I thought cutting off my narcissistic family and leaving my narcissistic ex would feel like freedom. And in a way, it was. But it also felt like losing a part of myself I … Read more
There was a time I couldn’t tell if the voice in my head was mine or my toxic mother’s. Or my ex’s. Or my narcissistic older sister’s. “You’re too much.”“You’re impossible to love.”“You’ll never make it without me.” They didn’t just say those things once. They repeated them until I did too. I didn’t even … Read more
I wasn’t born afraid. You weren’t either. But after years of walking on eggshells, swallowing my words, and shrinking myself to keep the peace for my very dysfunctional and toxic family. I forgot what courage even felt like. Fear became so familiar, it started feeling safe. I mistook it for protection. If you’ve ever held … Read more
Is reaching goals important to you? Or, are you more of a free rover? Though the path is your own to choose, you should know that not all of them lead to the top. Multiple success stories have proven this, along with two frequently cited studies on the importance of goal setting. In 1979, interviewers … Read more
Growing up in a business-savvy family, investment is something that I’ve never stopped hearing. Do you want to be rich? Invest in stock, in a company or focus on start-ups, but what happens to invest in yourself? I was told that school is the best place to learn, do well in school, get good grades, … Read more
The first time I caught my narcissistic mother lying to my face, I thought I had misunderstood. She looked me dead in the eye and said, “I never said that.”But I remembered every word. The tone. The pause. The sting. Still, I doubted myself. Because that’s what narcissists do. They lie so confidently, so calmly, … Read more
I used to believe that having a good attitude would fix everything, at least while growing up with a narcissistic mother and her enablers. Smile more. Be grateful. Don’t let them get to you. But here’s the truth no one told me, you can’t “positive attitude” your way out of abuse. Especially when the narcissist … Read more
I used to stare at myself in the mirror and wonder, “Who even are you anymore?” After years of being told I was too much, too emotional, too dramatic, believing in myself felt impossible. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just break your heart. It breaks your identity. It chips away at your self-worth until all that’s left … Read more
