The holidays can feel like stepping into a snow globe: sparkling on the outside but suffocating inside. For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, the season is a minefield of heightened volatility, while others seem effortlessly joyful. I once opened a carefully wrapped “gift” from my sister that was intentionally the wrong size. Another year, my ... Read more
For years, the holidays felt like a forced performance: exhausting, chaotic, and always judged by whether my mother or siblings approved. I walked into December already bracing myself, rehearsing lines, and shrinking my needs just to keep the peace. Now, after stepping back from the narcissistic family dynamics that shaped my life, the holidays feel ... Read more
The holidays have a way of pulling out the most manipulative, dramatic, guilt-fueled sides of narcissists. I used to dread December because it meant stepping back into a role I never agreed to play. The peacekeeper, punching bag, emotional shock absorber. If you’re anything like me, you’ve felt the pressure to “keep the peace,” even ... Read more
Holiday dinners are supposed to feel warm and familiar. But if you grew up in a narcissistic family system, they often turn into emotional landmines wrapped in tinsel. For years, I thought I was imagining the tension, the sudden mood shifts, the feeling of being evaluated. Eventually, I recognized the pattern. Narcissists use holiday gatherings ... Read more
You’d think the chaos ends the moment a narcissist walks out of your life. You expect silence, distance, and maybe, a shred of peace. But narcissists don’t leave quietly. They leave smoke, echoes, and psychological debris in places you never expected. I used to believe the nightmare was over once an ex stopped calling. But ... Read more
Holidays have a way of revealing narcissists rather than flattering them. The things that make the season warm for most people, like shared joy, traditions, and togetherness, make narcissists feel exposed and threatened. Every year, I’d watch a small incident blow up into full drama. My sister turning a harmless stocking-stuffer into an insult, or ... Read more
Why do narcissists always manage to ruin the moments that should bring everyone together? I used to wonder this every year, counting down to birthdays and holidays with a sense of excitement that always ended in disappointment. A few years ago, I planned my own birthday, imagining laughter filling the kitchen with the whole family. ... Read more
Narcissists love being praised, but the only compliments they truly deserve come wrapped in truth. I used to admire the way my mother could command a room and the way my sister could manipulate everyone into thinking she was charming. Even my brother had a way of making people believe he was harmless. I thought ... Read more
Holidays are supposed to be soft places in the year, bright pockets of love, warmth, and relief. At least, that’s what I used to believe. Every season, I’d decorate the house with the hope that maybe this year would be calm. Maybe my mom wouldn’t find something to criticize, or my brother wouldn’t start one ... Read more
Imagine how different our healing journeys would look if narcissists could be honest for just five minutes. Five minutes of truth instead of manipulation. Five minutes where they dropped the performance and told us what we always suspected but never heard out loud. I used to fantasize about that moment, especially during the years I ... Read more
