There’s something surreal about the moment a narcissist “falls in love” with you at lightning speed. The intensity feels cinematic. The compliments, the long messages, the future fantasies whispered before you even know their favorite coffee. It feels intoxicating instead of suspicious, almost like your nervous system is being fast-tracked into a romance you didn’t ... Read more
For years, I clung to the idea that the narcissists in my family were simply “sick.” It felt safer that way. It was easier to believe my mother’s venom was a symptom, not a choice. Easier to label my younger brother’s cruelty as “stress.” Easier to excuse my sister’s cold silences as “emotional wounds.” Because ... Read more
Red flags in narcissistic relationships usually whisper. They are subtle, small annoyances you rationalize, behaviors you convince yourself are “just quirks.” But some red flags don’t whisper. They scream. And if you ignore them, you’re setting yourself up for years of frustration, confusion, and even fear. I remember the first time I noticed the warning ... Read more
There’s a specific kind of silence that happens the first time a narcissist sees you glowing. Not the kind of glow that comes from a new haircut or extra sleep, but from healing in places they were sure would stay cracked forever. Your glow-up becomes living proof that every tactic they used to keep you ... Read more
There’s a moment when love finally dies, and it doesn’t feel dramatic the way the relationship did. It feels clean. Shocking but undeniably clarifying. I woke up one morning after years of loving the wrong man and realized something strange. I wasn’t panicking or waiting for a text. I wasn’t rehearsing my next move to ... Read more
A narcissist’s home is the one place they can’t fully curate, control, or disguise, and that’s exactly why you’ll almost never see it. Behind their locked doors lives the truth they work tirelessly to keep hidden. I learned this the hard way. Growing up with a narcissistic mother, every “maybe next week” invitation to her ... Read more
We’re all raised on the idea that the holidays are meant to feel magical, with gentle lights and familiar voices. Love is portrayed as something that wraps around you effortlessly. But if you grew up around narcissists, that expectation collides with a different reality. The closer December gets, the more tightly your chest starts to ... Read more
Spending the holidays with a narcissist can feel like walking into a battlefield wearing only a sweater. Maybe it’s a co-parenting situation, a guilt-tripping parent, or an unavoidable extended family gathering. Everyone else seems to be celebrating while you’re bracing yourself for emotional landmines. You’re replaying past interactions and wondering how you’ll survive the next ... Read more
If you grew up with narcissistic family members, you know the moment I’m talking about. The holidays finally end, the emotional dust has barely settled, you’re breathing again, and then a text appears. Something disarmingly gentle like “I miss you” or “Hope you’re doing well,” coming from the very person who drained you all December. ... Read more
The holidays can feel like stepping into a snow globe: sparkling on the outside but suffocating inside. For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, the season is a minefield of heightened volatility, while others seem effortlessly joyful. I once opened a carefully wrapped “gift” from my sister that was intentionally the wrong size. Another year, my ... Read more
