Intellectual Growth

Funny how no one says anything while you’re slowly being destroyed behind closed doors. No one asks if you’re okay. No one steps in when the insults get sharper. No one dares to challenge the person doing the damage. But the second you speak up, suddenly everyone remembers something. Suddenly, they knew all along. Suddenly, … Read more

Understanding the roots doesn’t excuse the damage, but it explains everything. The pain that started it all. I didn’t just study narcissism, I lived it. I was born to a narcissistic mother who saw me as an extension of herself, not a child with my own voice. I dated a narcissist who twisted my emotions … Read more

If you told me ten years ago I’d be grateful for the woman who called me “ugly, loser, dumb, ungrateful” while growing up, I would’ve laughed in your face and handed you a therapist’s number. But here I am, decades later, and I finally get it. My narcissistic mother didn’t raise me. She trained me. … Read more

“You’re too sensitive.”That’s what they said, right after the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the cold shoulder. I heard it so often from my narcissistic mother that I started to believe it. Walking away from a narcissistic relationship isn’t peaceful. It’s messy. It’s painful. And it feels like waking up from a nightmare where the damage … Read more

If you’ve ever tried to get a narcissist to tell the truth, you know it feels like talking to a f*cking brick wall. They dodge, deflect, and suddenly, you’re the one questioning your reality. The more you push, the more they manipulate, and before you know it, you’re spiraling. I spent 20 years navigating the … Read more

For a long time, I thought that walking away from the narcissists in my life would be the hardest part. It wasn’t. The silence that came after? The overthinking? The grief for the version of me they shattered? That’s what almost broke me. I had blocked them. Cut them off. Burned the bridge. And still, … Read more

I used to think silence meant weakness. That if I didn’t speak up, defend myself, or at least clap back, I was letting them win. But I learned something the hard way. Sometimes, silence is the loudest thing you can say. If you’ve ever loved, lived with, or worked under a narcissist, you already know… … Read more

Toxic family dynamics don’t hit you all at once. They creep in slowly, making you question yourself until you’re trapped in emotional chaos. It’s like quicksand… You don’t realize you’re sinking until you’re already too deep. I wish someone had handed me a checklist years ago when I was drowning in my family’s toxicity. But … Read more

I didn’t think he’d notice. Not really. After everything… after the silent treatments, the twisted words, the endless second chances, I figured walking away would be the end of it. Quiet. Final. Done. But that’s not how narcissists work. The moment I stopped caring, the moment I really started moving on… that’s when he came … Read more

I wish someone had told me this sooner. It would’ve saved me years of confusion, heartache, and second-guessing myself into exhaustion. If you’ve ever loved a narcissist, you already know it’s not the kind of pain you just “get over.” It crawls into your head and messes with everything… your peace, your confidence, your sense … Read more